5 Single Mom Moments We Take for Granted

  

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“It’s 2 in the morning, you’re full, you’re changed, you’re burped, we’re cuddling, WHAT MORE COULD YOU POSSIBLY NEED?!”

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Yep, we’ve all been there. 

There comes a time where it begins to feel like life would be so much easier if there was a man there to give you a break even for two minutes so you can focus on yourself and brush the throw up out of your shedding postpartum locks. 

Sure, it’s all on you mama and you totally deserve a break but whether or not you will actually get one is a different story.

On the contrary, we, as single moms, take for granted the lovely moments that have normalized themselves in this repetitive and exhausting cycle of commitment called motherhood.

Therefore, I am here to remind us about 5 (in no particular order) of the many moments we should be oh so grateful for as mothers raising our children on our own.

1.    Our Way or the Highway

Most definitely one of my favorite parts about being a single mama is the certainty that we make the rules. Following the cliché that women love being right: I can admit that it feels freakin’ awesome to never have to question or compromise on a decision I want to make for my child. It’s something that we don’t think twice about because we’re the one and only parent. There is no “Hey that’s not a good idea.” No need for second guessing or even discussion because we’ve built this boss-mama confidence to conquer any situation all on our own despite the judgement that comes our way. (and trust me if you don’t know this already, you’ll find out that there will always judgement) When I see silly stories from Facebook friends about disagreements they had with their spouse regarding their kids I am reminded of how different of a life I live and how incredibly grateful I am to be the one and only person my child truly needs.

2.    It’s All Our Fault

Being a mom is like watching that hilarious show “Wipeout” except you’re the contestant getting thrown around and that pooping, screaming, eating, drooling angel is the “big balls” testing how far you’ll make it this time. I am sure there will never be a time when we feel like the “perfect” parent we want to be but that sure as hell doesn’t mean those feelings are factual. We have to take a step back and realize that for every difficult and blameful experience there comes a rewarding and wonderful moment. We will be to blame for it all, I don’t know about you but that feeling to me is daunting! Our children will grow up according to our decisions. We can blame ourselves all we want but should never dare to stop after only breaking ourselves down by pointing out the negative, regretful choices we’ve had to make as a single mom. Blame “elegantly” as Tony Robbins would say. It’s all our fault that our baby is so loved, spoiled, attended to and beautiful, we’re to blame for raising such kind, patient, obedient, and smart kids who look up to women with the utmost adoration and respect because their mom is a super hero. So, go ahead! Blame away mama!

3.    Your side; My Si- oh ok I guess this is your side too..

I personally can’t imagine a life where I would be forced to share the baby cuddles. The times that are so abundant and almost overwhelming in our daily lives as single moms may seem few and far between for those who are not us. Such as when we put on a movie or for some go to sleep with our baby at night and are smothered by curious hands and cuddly head nuzzles courtesy of our little ones that just can’t get enough of us. No distractions or discontentment whatsoever presents itself which is partly due to the fact that you are the only parent around. In the eyes of our children, we are the ultimate loving, beautiful, and secure place to rest. Now if that doesn’t make you euphoric I don’t know what will.

4.    Boss Baby; Boss Mama

Now don’t get me wrong every woman is capable of self-gratification and empowerment with or without a man. However, in my opinion raising a child all by ourselves is something that all the online forums/ articles, friendly advice, and baby books can never prepare us for. Our children will control every aspect of our lives as if it is our boss. The hands on, rollercoaster, experience of watching your baby grow up and leave the womb in such an astoundingly brief lapse of time followed by the gladly accepted obligation to LEARN how to teach a tiny angel creature to be a functioning and well-mannered human and member of society without the help of a partner is a task that capacitates areas of structure and influence in our personality that we may have never even accessed before. We indeed are badass boss mamas. No thank you, hold the side of pity I am too busy raising the best person you’ll ever meet in the whole entire world and thriving as a woman without a man’s help.

5.    The Time that Starts with “T”

You guys didn’t think I’d forget to mention good ole’ toilet time did ya?? Ah yes, the infamous moment every mama knows all too well. Gotta poo? Doesn’t matter if the door is closed they’re coming in one way or another for probably the most arbitrary reason you’d imagine. I included this on our list because it is another one of those moments that single mamas experience a bit more excessively seeing as 99% of the time no one is around to be a momentary distraction for our little ones. Now this one is more like a humorous yet weirdly precious bonding moment that us single moms love/ hate but would never give up for the world. Tinkle time = toilet bonding time! 

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Mothering a kid is damn hard guys. It’s the most treacherous, exciting, beautiful, frustrating, and rewarding journey basically of all time I mean let’s be real. We are all doing our best if you’re doubting the fact that you are a freakin’ amazing mama then reevaluate whose perspective you’re basing that opinion off of. The only person in the world who you are expected to please and protect is that wide-eyed wonder you are raising and I know that they are looking at you right now with overflowing appreciation and devotion so keep your chin up you’re worth much more that.

I plan on divulging tons of other “mommy hood” stories and whatnot in the near future so check back here at least once a week for new content my fellow beautiful mamas out there.

You are loved, you are incredible, you are powerful, you are raising an excellent human. 

Disclaimer: This list was in no way meant to talk down on anybody. I am simply highlighting the blessings we should rejoice in as a mother raising a kid on our own because the struggle can sometimes feel a bit more overwhelming than the reward and everyone deserves to be present and happy with their child: spouse or no spouse.